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how can you judge rather or not someone is best suited for the role?Ask Paul that. He did the same thing in 1 Cor 7. Have you read that chapter yet?
theres no scriptural mandate saying that the man MUST be celibate.I never said that men must be celibate, at least not how I think you understand it. You need to read my words carefully here b/c my position is nuanced.
The Church isn't forcing anyone to do anything. You make it sound like the Jesuits are kidnapping people who are called to be married and forcing them to refrain from sex for the rest of their lives. That's not what is going on here. All the Church is doing is choosing for the priesthood those men who have been given the gift of celibacy, and then asking them to live according to that gift. Would you rather the Church encourage people to be unfaithful to God and the calling he has upon their lives? It's actually loving and charitable to ask men who haven't been given this gift to step down. The Church isn't in the habit of forcing people into a lifestyle that they haven't been called to live.
Also, if you have the gift of celibacy and you answer God's call to the priesthood, then you're going to want to live a celibate lifestyle. We find fulfillment in life when we live according to the gifts we have been given and the calling that God has for us. So, to require a man w/ the gift of celibacy to live a celibate lifestyle isn't actually a requirement or a restriction at all. What's interesting is that most men who enter the seminary have already been living lives of celibacy for several years, before it was ever an actual requirement for them.
All the Church wants people to do is live out there vocation.
neither does it mention it being "better" than marriage.It does to, dude. Did you read the specific verses from 1 Cor 7 that I cited? Here they are again:
1 Cor 7:1,7-8,17,26-28,32-35,38 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote. It is well for a man not to touch a woman. 7 I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. 8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is well for them to remain single as I do. 17 Only, let every one lead the life which the Lord has assigned to him, and in which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches. 26 I think that in view of the present distress it is well for a person to remain as he is. 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek marriage. 28 But if you marry, you do not sin, and if a girl marries she does not sin. Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that. 32 I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the affairs of the Lord, how to please the Lord; 33 but the married man is anxious about worldly affairs, how to please his wife, 34 and his interests are divided. 35 I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord. 38 So that he who marries his betrothed does well; and he who refrains from marriage will do better.
You may want to read that whole chapter again. Paul even says that it is only "by way of concession, not of command" that he allows marriage (cf. vs. 6).
its only a wish to Paul but he knows not everybody has that kind of gift. thats not the same as saying celibacy is better. am i wrong here?Yes, I think you are. The very fact that he would rather people be as he is then to be married shows that he considers his lifestyle to be the more preferrable one. There are many other verses that express that same sentiment. Also, I know that Paul realizes that not everyone has that gift. The Church realizes that too, which is why she doesn't require men to be celibate if they haven't been given that gift.
PS: Also see Part 7.